Relationship is the association, link or connection that exists between two parties. Building a good relationship with others is vital for everyone that desires to live life to the fullest. The Bible states that “two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour” Eccle. 4:9. Eve was created so that Adam would not continue to be alone. In the evenings, God Himself came down to fellowship with Adam. Gen. 2:18; 3:8.
God wants us to have a wholesome fellowship with Him, the most intimate relationship possible because He wants to continue to fill us with His presence. Moses’ face was covered with God’s glory because he related with God and stayed in His presence. No man can succeed alone without the help of others. Therefore it is necessary that we learn the principles of good relationship.
The Characteristics of a Good Relationship:
- Maturity: Growing up in heart and mind. Making active efforts to recognise and resolve negative influences from our past. Not allowing the flesh or personal ambitions to gain our focus as we relate with others but making the gains of the other person our focus. This helps us to relate well with others as they can be sure that we will not take advantage of them. The Bible admonishes us to “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather,i humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the other” Philippians 2:2-4. Our fleshly weakness must be broken with our old nature
- Openness: We must be down-to-earth and open. David, though a king, was not ashamed to admit his faults, neither did he push the blame on others. He owned up to his mistakes and confessed them accordingly.” 2 Samuel 12:13. People want to relate with those who are authentic and realistic, not those who pretend. Realising that we are humans and that we are not prefect, will help us to appreciate others and be open to them.
- Honesty and Integrity: Honesty builds trust between people. dishonesty confuses the other party, betraying their vulnerability and shattering their sense of reality. Nothing has a more destructive impact on a close relationship than dishonesty and deception. We must strive to live a life of integrity. Let us be the same people we are when we are alone as well as in the midst of others.
- Mutual Respect: Everyone has a measure of grace that is capable of impacting others. We need others to complement that which is lacking in us, as Eve was an helper to Adam. Thus, we should appreciate them and respect them for who they are.
Nobody can succeed in isolation from others. We are the members of Christ’s body and every part completes the other. Our impact will be greatly felt when we join forces with others to advance the kingdom of God. “Five of you will chase a hundred, and a hundred of you will chase ten thousand, and your enemies will fall before you by the sword”. Leviticus 26:8